Welcome to our comprehensive article on why women like bad boys over good men and nice guys. This is a topic that has been debated for years, and we aim to provide you with five interesting insights that John, a typical nice guy, learned from Jessy, an actually really good nice girl he’s had a crush on forever, about why women go for bad boys instead of good guys. We will also share the five things John did to overcome these obstacles and get the girl of his dreams, and how you can too.
First, bad boys are more unpredictable than nice guys because they’re not afraid to take risks and challenge convention. This kind of spontaneity appeals to women who want someone to take the lead and make them feel more adventurous. Second, bad boys often epitomize confidence and strength, which appeals to women’s independent nature. Women are drawn to confidence and strength because it makes them feel safe.
Third, bad boys have more of a social life filled with new experiences and endless possibilities. Women need to feel mentally, emotionally, and physically stimulated, and having someone who can provide that kind of social life takes the pressure off of them to be their partner’s entire source of entertainment. Fourth, bad boys are often unencumbered by traditional rules and expectations, which gives them an air of mystery. Women need to be intrigued and stimulated mentally and challenged, which in their experience, happens more with bad boys than nice guys who always agree with them.
Fifth, bad boys know how to banter and challenge women in a way that makes those women want to turn those bad boys into good men. This kind of playful teasing triggers arousal and instantly sparks attraction.
Although these reasons can pose a challenge for nice guys like John, there are things they can do without compromising their integrity or becoming someone they’re not. For example, they can become more spontaneous in their daily routine by taking a different route to work, trying new things like rock climbing or skydiving, and joining social clubs or taking dancing lessons to expand their social life. They can also expand their boundaries and comfort zones by trying new restaurants or different cuisines, traveling abroad, and investing more time in developing their intellect by reading different books on different topics or attending classes or lectures outside their comfort zone.
Showing a woman that you can be just as exciting and unpredictable as a bad boy while also being a good man who she can feel safe with, cherished, protected, and stimulated by is key. It’s not about playing games or trying to be something you’re not. When you actually develop confidence within yourself and do all of these things, you’ll have a better life regardless of how it affects women.
In summary, women want a good man with a bit of an edge who they can still feel safe with and who can make them feel stimulated by taking the lead, being confident and spontaneous, and challenging them in a playful way. Nice guys like John can overcome the obstacles of being too predictable, boring, or needy by showing women that they can be just as exciting and unpredictable as bad boys while also being good men who they can feel safe with.
We hope you found this article helpful and insightful. Remember, life begins outside your comfort zone, and with some effort and patience, nice guys like John can be just as attractive, if not more so, than bad boys without resorting to dubious tactics and bad boy behavior. Thanks for reading, and we wish you the best of luck in your romantic endeavors!
I heard a woman say recently the real reason “good girls” choose “bad boys” is because there are no good girls. It’s just a façade, no one is all good or all bad, we’re all human. You have to compete for a mate and everything else in this world.
I think women are drawn to bad boys because of confidence, not the ‘bad’ trait, with rare exception.
The problem I have with your story is that time doesn’t stand still. Good to do all those things you need to do for yourself…first. Not suddenly jump through hoops to impress her thinking she’ll be there for you. While you are going to night school or the gym, she’s not going to be on hold for you. While you are burning midnight oil to impress her, don’t expect her to be waiting for you when you reach your goal. Plan on being more impressive (higher value) to the follow-on women.
So if you have that low hanging fruit of things you think you need to do, to be your best self, then you need to be doing them now. I include myself in this.
Since I’m free of prospectives right now (more time and money), I’ll be checking out gyms in town. I want to take my waistline down so my clothes will fit right, and regain some fitness. I don’t think that will necessarily ‘win’ me the woman I want, just keep me from rejection for things that I can and should have a handle on. (Not a love handle)
All I can say is this…being single for the last year and a half after being with my ex for 15 years…I pretty much just say what I say and do what I do. I don’t simp, I don’t chase, I challenge, I prioritize myself… I’ve never been more popular with women. I feel like this was also true in my early 20s, but now in my late 30s I really don’t give a shit and that gives me more power in relationships.